April 3, 2008
A Sign Of Imbalance
Overachieving and Overreaching
Overachievers are people who have achieved but still feel the need to
do more, creating an imbalance in their lives. People who exhibit this
behavior may be trying to compensate for feelings of insecurity and
doubts about their worth. They may be chasing unresolved issues from
their past into the present, or they might not be looking at their
lives as a whole, but judging themselves based only on one aspect of
their being. If this is a word that we’ve heard used with respect to
our choices and lifestyle, it is worth examining in order to balance
our lives for a more rewarding experience.
If we find that we cannot allow ourselves to experience and enjoy the
present moment, putting pleasure off into some distant future, it may
be a sign that we are being driven to achieve more than is truly
necessary. Pushing ourselves beyond the point of exhaustion, or to the
exclusion of important people in our lives, robs us of true and
meaningful joy. Once we make the connection to the eternal part of us,
it can nourish us and allow our priorities to shift from chasing after
an elusive feeling to being fully present in the moment so that we can
live our lives in the now.
Sometimes we need to look to those we love and admire in order to
realize what we value about life. We can take time to note what we like
about others, and then turn the mirror to reflect the light of those
same words and feelings toward ourselves. It can be quite a revelation
to see ourselves in this nourishing light. When we can put the energy
that we’ve been devoting to a phantom sense of achievement into the
truly satisfying aspects of our lives, we can restore the balance
between our inner and outer worlds and experience true joyful peace.